The Relationship Vision Workbook: Get Clear on Your Non-Negotiables Before You Get Attached

This guide is for women who are dating, or about to start, and who keep finding themselves bending. You like someone. The chemistry is real. Then a need that mattered a lot to you slowly turns into "maybe I don't actually need that." If you've ever wondered whether you were being flexible or abandoning yourself, this is for you. It's especially for anyone with anxious attachment patterns, or who is simply very good at adapting. Inside, you'll work through a clear process for getting specific about what you want before you're deeply bonded to anyone. You'll separate your preferences (height, hobbies, favorite restaurants) from your relationship vision (marriage, children, monogamy, shared spirituality, the life you want to build) and your relational values (reciprocity, vulnerability, humility, emotional intimacy, growth). You'll learn to tell genuine flexibility from self-abandonment dressed up as open-mindedness. You'll also build a short, usable list of non-negotiables, not a 47-point checklist, and practice using it when real feelings are involved. The goal isn't a perfect partner or a rigid rulebook. It's more spaciousness between you and the person you're dating, so you can choose from a grounded place instead of a scarce one. It's also easier to walk away when someone isn't aligned, even when there's a lot of good there. Silvy Khoucasian is a licensed marriage and family therapist and relationship coach. Helping single clients get clear on their relationship vision is one of the first things she does with them. She sees how often a lack of clarity keeps women confused and stuck. This workbook turns that work into steps you can do on your own.